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7/8/2015

A perfect day...by accident

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PictureCruising on my quad, on a lovely July day.
Yesterday was a perfect day. I had no idea that it was going to be when it started out. In fact in the morning I was a little miffed that I had to go to Treherne with Cecil when he went for lab work. I'd gone to Portage the day before to get a criminal record check, only to be told there that I had to get it in my own area, the Treherne office. So I begrudgingly headed into town with him.

As we got that done, we headed on a drive to Elm Creek to pick up the tarp for the boat, then had lunch in St. Claude and headed for home. It was a beautiful, sunny day, the first we've had for ages with all the smoke that has filled our skies from the wildfires across the country. I decided if I was going to get any pictures of the canola fields that were in bloom, today would be the day, as the smoke and haze is supposed to come back in the next day or so.  

When we got home, we both decided that we'd go to our day's projects on the quads. He would ride with me to the field I wanted to photograph, and then we'd carry on in our separate directions. I'd intended to just go to the one field and head for home...but I got sidetracked. More than sidetracked...I got lost in the day...and it was glorious.  

I ended up going from one field to another up along PR242. Then headed for home past Mom and Dad's old place. Some of the back-roads I took were so overgrown with clover, you could barely see the trail through, but the sweet smell of the clover was captivating. I'd forgotten how those sights and smells can take you away from your everyday into something magical. 

I made stop after stop, turning of the quad, listening to the sounds around me and photographing the wild flowers in the ditches.  As I was about to head for home, I ran into a neighbor that told me the pink lady-slippers were in bloom over by the cemetery, so I changed directions again and headed off in search of them, the wind in my hair, the dragonflies surrounding me.

In the end, four hours just disappeared. I never once took my cell phone out of my bag to check for messages, or Facebook or anything else. The time was just mine, capturing the beauty of nature, preserving it's magnificence digitally for days to come when that kind of escape might not be possible.

Back at home, I had to reflect on why I don't allow myself to do that more often than I do. Our days of summer are so limited. Our days are limited, period. Why not grab on to those moments when they appear and go be with nature, with no regrets or excuses..to yourself or others.

I look at all that is going on in the world. All the pain, the wars, the anger. I wonder when was the last time, if ever, that some people have had the opportunity to be lost in the timelessness that I was blessed with yesterday. Have the had the chance to sit in the grass, stare at the sky, explore the wildflowers and just breathe. Even more important...Just BE.  If people had more opportunities to commune with Mother Earth, would there be that anger and disconnect that is so prevalent today? I don't thing so, and I know that it's not easy or possible for everyone. Most of the world does not live in the boon-docks as I do...but what if they could find a way to just spend some time away from it all. All the noise, all the buildings, all the other people who are also in that space. I wonder and I wish that opportunity for all, just every now and then.


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5/1/2015

Finding your own 'Heaven'   May 1, 2015

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Have you ever read Mitch Albom’s ‘The Five People you Meet in Heaven’?  Its one of my favourite books…well, maybe I should really say most of his books are ‘one of my’ favourites!  But that one I love, mostly because in it Mitch proposes that heaven will be whatever we really, really want it to be, based on our life experience, our favourite moments and places, and what our perfect place would be.  What a wonderful idea!

What is most incredible about is is how blessed I am that I am living in my heaven as I write. I’ve always loved and cherished this little nook in the world, but every year I think I cherish it more.  We’ve created a little campground, up on the hill, in back of the main yard.  It’s got the most beautiful sunsets over the Assiniboine River Valley.  It’s so quiet, you could literally hear a pin drop, except when the generator is running to charge up the batteries in the 5th wheel.  When it’s off, there isn’t a sound.  Not the hum of a furnace, or traffic, or anything.  What there is are birds, insects, the gentle breeze and occasionally the howl of coyotes in the distance.  

We put our camper up here early in the year, and take advantage of as many moments as we can.  I can tether my cell to get a little wifi reception, to work on things that I’m passionate about pursuing.  The cell phone might ring, but most times not.  And for the most part it is absolute, blissful peace and tranquility.  It feeds my soul and nourishes my spirit like nothing else seems to be able to do.  Time at the ocean comes close, but that always comes at a cost…the price of energy expended to share that space with the hundreds of other people who have chosen that as their get away of choice.  This is different.  This is ours, and the only other people that might be here in this little niche are those we’ve invited to embrace this with us.  

I like the camper, because that is ‘my space’.  Cecil prefers the quiet and the rustic life he can enjoy in his cabin, just feet away from where our camper is sitting.  On the deck of the cabin, we’ve got the greatest swing that was given to us by friends who were moving and decided not to take it with them.  We can sit and swing and just stare out into the beauty of the valley for hours, without the need for a word to be spoken.  Just drinking in the beauty and the quiet that is this place.  

We all need that ‘place’ that is ours to go to.  To gather our spirits, reboot and reenergize our souls and ground ourselves for all that the world throws at us.  I know how lucky I am to have this, and hope that you have a place of your own that does that for you.  It doesn’t have to be large, or remote or even space that is your own, if it’s somewhere that allows you to breathe more deeply and connect more solidly with the source of what keeps you going day after day.  If you don’t have that space for you….you need to find one.  Honor yourself by making finding that space that is yours a priority, not something that you’ll do one day.  Something you will do now, before the world pulls any more from you that you don’t have a chance to replenish. 

Some people are pulled to nature, as I am.  Others find that in a sacred building, a sanctuary, a coffee house that affords them a corner to themselves, or a museum.  It can be on a bench along a small strip of greenspace, or a walkway along the water’s edge.  It can be whatever your idea of Heaven might be, even if it’s a sacred space you’ve created in your own home that is yours to go to and be undisturbed for the time needed to replenish yourself.  The where is as individual as each of us are, but the need to find this and gift it to ourselves is universal.  Have you found your little peace of ‘heaven’ here on earth that nourishes you?  If not, what are you waiting for….because you know it’s waiting for you. 



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3/8/2015

International Women's Day 2015...the Elite

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As the first long day of 2015, and #IWD draw to a close, I've had much to reflect on. Earlier today, my friend Kubeketerya from Uganda asked the question, what am I and the other elite women doing to celebrate the day. I was very quick to respond that we are by no means elite, but we are very blessed. But this evening as I soaked in a long hot bath, made luxurious thanks to the bath salts from @SajeNaturalWellness that my friend Lisa sent me, I realized that in this broken, struggling world, my friends, family and I may be considered among the elite. We have safe homes, hot water, loving relationships and all the comforts that make for an amazing life. On this same day, so many other women are struggling just to get through the day, feed their children, have safe drinking water, and freedom from persecution. We do not live in the fear and heartache that our #MMIW sisters and their families are walking through on this very same day. So how do we turn this extraordinary, privileged status that we are graced with into action that will make our world a better, more compassionate place for all? As I contemplate my own next steps, I would love to hear your thoughts and ideas.
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12/11/2014

This year #GivePresence

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I found this video just at the perfect time, and it resonates to deeply with the things I'm feeling these days.  My husband will tell you and confirm, that I am as guilty as anyone of multi-tasking...especially when it's just he and I.  Why do we do that, why do we work so hard to keep connected with people and groups and causes around the world, at the neglect of the one who is sitting here right within reach.  I know I'm not the only one, but I am the only one I can make change this habit.

We all find it so easy to get distracted.  To keep checking for texts and facebook notices and instagram pictures...that we miss out on the connection that is right in front of us.  To be Truly Me, I have to get better at that.  This video was a great reminder to me to be more present especially here at home, where at the end of the day, it's where your presence is most valued, most appreciated and most remembered. 

Take a moment to watch the video, then tell me it doesn't strike a chord!  This season I hope more of us can commit to #GivePresence in our homes, our communities and in all places where we have an opportunity to make an impact! 

WARNING: It does manage to drop an f-bomb, that I'd prefer they hadn't, because I think we can get messages across to people without resorting to that , but I do like the underlying message.








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8/13/2014

That question arises again...Why did this happen for me?

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It was an interesting evening last night. So much is changing around us right now, as we await further information on where our journey is headed...and, knowing that the only constant we have in our lives is in fact change.  So in going with that flow of thought, I decided it was time to change up my website a little.  And so it began...

Not everyone you know likely has three blogs flowing from one website.  I am not everyone.  And choose to document and share different aspects of my life's journey in different ways.  It's a very long story, and I won't bore you with the details of it all at this point. 

Anyhow, in working to make those changes, put my blog areas together, and update a few things, I ended up hitting a wrong button that completely erased my ongoing 3 years Truly You 'Sharing Blog' journal.  I was devastated ...and in fact this morning, was still angry with myself for the mishap.  But as I've tried to with every event, good or bad, over the past several years,  I calmed down and asked my self "Why is this happening for me?" 

It's that constant re-framing of events that has made such a difference in my life.  
Instead of asking 'Why is this happening to me?" when things don't go according to our well orchestrated plans...I instead choose to ask, "Why is this happening for me?".  So as I have for so many, many events...I asked myself this same question this morning.

As the day progressed, wonderful things happened and came to light. 
So what are the possibilities of why this happened for me?
  • Today, after weeks of waiting for post-surgery pathology reports, my dear husband was given a clean bill of health to move forward into life with.  Maybe this unplanned deletion of past memories and experiences is a message that I too need to start over with a fresh slate to record through fresh eyes the many blessings that are ours.
  • In going through my associated sites, such as Pinterest, in an attempt to see what might have been lost...I was reminded of how much magic and pleasure I've enjoyed over the past few years.  Looking at the pictures I've been able to capture, the memories made and the quotes that highlighted some of the meaningful days in my own life...I have been reminded of how full and passionate and meaningful my day to day existence is.  Wow!
  • Being reminded that change is indeed good.  Ask any butterfly... as a caterpillar thinking that the world as they knew it is ended...they emerge as their new, beautiful self.  I think that transformational time has come for me as well.  What was served it's purpose very well. It created a space for me under the umbrella of how things were.  But today...everything is different.  Priorities have been adjusted.  What matters most has been brought back into the light.  The reality of our finite lives has been re-established.  But with that...we are here!  We have a chance today...to do more, to do better, to be our best knowing that this is what we have.  It is sacred, it is beautiful and it is perfect.

    So this evening, as I end this incredible day of downs, then ups, then leveling... I realize nothing matters more than being true to what it is that is truly me and ask...what is it that will support you to be 'truly you'?



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Transformation: Just when the caterpillar believes the world is ending, the butterfly emerges.

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8/12/2014

August 12th, 2014

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The world can overwhelm us from time to time...roles, responsibilities, the expectations of others...or more often ourselves.
Take time in your day to let your mind be quiet. Remind yourself of who you are at your core, what your intention for this day is, and just  breathe. You give so much to the world...take time to let what's around you give back for a moment.
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